Тэнгэрийн хаяа бараантан дэлхий ертөнц надтай адил тавгүй байгаа гэлтэй зэврүүн харагдана. Тэртээ үүлсийн завсараар орон алга болох сон. Хэрвээ тэгэж чаддаг байсан бол аль хэдийн нисчихсэн байх байсан биз. Дураараа, чөлөөтэй, өөрийнхөөрөө…

Нисээд л, усны мандал зүсэн шумбан дүүлээд л, модны навч хуйлруулан дэвээд л, хэнд ч баригдахгүй, бас харагдахгүй, хаана ч буухгүй, бас тогтохгүй зөвхөн өөрийнхөөрөө тэнгэрийн хаяаг ширтэн нисээд л … Тахиа надад атаархан тэртээ дор донгодоод л… Харин би хараацайтай уралдан сүлжилдээд л… Дээшээ, бүр дээшээ, одоо чигээрээ, тэгээд баруун тийшээ, өшөө хурдан, бүр дээшээ… дээшээ, зүүн тийш ээ, одоо жаахан доошоо…. Ниссээр, дүүлсээр, шуугисаар, шуурсаар….

Газрын хязгаар, тэнгэрийн хаяа, зүүдэн заадас, мөрөөдлийн диваажин хүртэл яаран ниссээр, дүүлсээр, дэвсээр… Хайр луу тэмүүлэн бүх хүчээрээ тэмүүлсээр…. Тэртээ алсад хөвөх үүлсийг зүсэн, дээрээс нь доош шумбасаар….

Яг л ингэж эрх чөлөөтэйгээр амьдрах өдөр ирсэн юм шиг байна. Яах эсэхээ сайн мэдэхгүй ч би бол салхи… Салхийг хэн ч барихгүй бас харахгүй, зөвхөн мэдрэнэ. Хацрыг чинь илбэн, үсийг чинь сэвэлзүүлэн, хормойг чинь дэрвүүлнэ. Тэгэж л чи намайг хажуудаа байгааг мэдрэнэ. Харин би чамайг харна, дагана, үнсэнэ. Чи зөвхөн мэдрэнэ. Би үхсэн ч чамайг дагаад л, чиний эргэн тойронд байх болно. Чиний гараараа хүрдэг бүх зүйлтэй, орон гэрт чинь хүртэл цонх хаалттай ч завсраар нь би орох л болно. Би бол салхи. Өөрийнхөөрөө, дураараа, зоргоороо, эрх чөлөөтэйгээр чамайг л гэсэн би бол салхи. Хэрвээ би хүн болж чадах байсан бол, бас өөрийнхөө хэлбэрийг хүн шиг болгож чадах байсан бол чамд өөрт байгаа бүхнээ өгөх байсан. Чамд л гэж цаг гаргаж, чамд л гэж гараа гаргаж, чамд л гэж сэтгэл гаргаж, чамд л гэж зүрх гаргаж, чамд л гэж хайр гаргаж, чамд л гэж өөрийгөө золино. Би махан бие, цусан судлаас бүтсэн эгэл жирийн хүн. Зүрхнээс гарах хатуу, ширүүн, зэвүүн, хэрцгий зан араншингаа дарах гэж үйл тамаа цайж байгаа эгэл жирийн хүн, гэхдээ салхи. Би үхсэн юм чинь би салхи. Би үхсэн…. салхи болсон. Алсран одох харгуй хүртэл нэг л замтай нийлдэгтэй адил би ч ялгаагүй нэг л хүнтэй нэгдэх нь тодорхой.

Өнөөдөр гадаа бас л хүйтэн салхитай, зэврүүндүү өдөр байна. Орчлонд хүн ганц, хайр ганц, сэтгэл ганц, хүсэл ганц, салхи ч бас ганц. Магадгүй олон газар салхитай байвал салхи олон гэж хэлэх хүн гарч магадгүй. Гэхдээ миний хувьд салхи хэзээд ганц. Гагцхүү тэр ганц салхи олон газар янз янзаар үлээх олон ааштай төдий.

Money Money Money

Must Be Funny in the Rich Men’s World…

At their 20, women know that they want to make money and dream of a secure financial future but often have no clear picture of what exactly they want. It’s therefore important to set goals and draw a road map that leads to an easy relationship with money. HOW TO START WITH MONEY? HOW TO START YOUNG?

Money planning:

Money cannot buy peace of mind. It cannot heal ruptured relationships or build meaning into a life that has none saying people.

One of the key things that can help women build lasting wealth, relations and happiness is establishing money clarity. This is more applicable for women who are at their late 20’s, having money of their own, living in the chaotic fast-paced world of metros/mini metros and going through their most desired life transition either through new intimate relationships or marriage.

If you choose to agree, one of the key observations that have always grabbed my attention is that quite a few independent women find it challenging to maintain harmonious relationships with their key family members. If they assert themselves in financial matters, they are mistakenly accused of throwing their weight around and interfering in an essentially male domain. Also, financially dependent women, though having a close relation with their family, find themselves in a state of dissatisfaction of having no meaning in life.

One of the prime reasons of this mental and emotional chaos is the lack of money clarity. Money clarity comes with better understanding of yourself – your values, financial attitudes, beliefs, upbringing and finally, your life experiences. Lack of money clarity affects your potential to build wealth, healthy relations and also your peace of mind. Focusing too early ion investments avenues may not bring the desired result if it does not come from your true life needs.

Be Clear About Money

Women at their late 20’s are at their initial juncture of new relations and new life and must focus on bringing money clarity for themselves, which can be fruitful for them, their family and society at large. Some of the following home truths are a good reminder of what one must focus on.

• The more the money, the more the complications in your life.
• Money triggers emotions that can destroy poor relationships.
• The tension between time and money impacts your relations.
• You can’t choose your family but your family can have an impact on your decisions.
• Eighty per cent of your issues are about life and 20 per cent about financial planning.
  

Ask relevant questions

So before getting to know your numbers, you must know what money means to you. How do you relate money with your quality of life? What is the best use of money for you?

For example:

• Money means security for my life needs.
• Money means the best education for my kids.
• Money means a better lifestyle.
• Money means early retirement.

Ask yourself these questions and write the answers down. This can truly help you define the best usage of money based on your true needs. With such money clarity, which is based on superior and objective information of who you are, you can communicate effectively for aligned relationships with others. Effective communication is the key to healthy relationships and greater wealth. With that, you can develop a life purpose to set boundaries for life and hence be equipped to consistently make committed financial decisions. This is the surest path to achieve your goals and fulfill your needs. One of the important points to emphasize is that the quality of life will be different for each woman. What money means to you is based on your unique self, your special life experiences and your financial attitudes. What works for someone else might not be right for you. Learning it, identifying it recognizing it with courage is the best start to accelerate financial planner can help you set your life goals by facilitating highest money clarity and helping you build a map to reach them by optimally using your human capital and financial resources. To sum up, the key things you must remember for lasting wealth and happiness are as follows:

• Establish money clarity and write it down before you enter into financial transactions. This will help you define the best usage of money for you.
• Never ignore financial task. Spend more time in learning the skills to talk about money. It generally gets established when you show willingness to establish your money clarity.
• Money talk must be effective with the people who are important to you.
• Do not be shy to ask questions about money, especially to the financial planner or advisor. This is where you get an opportunity to gather financial knowledge.
• Emphasize on learning investment avenues rather than saving or earning. This will help you become financially wise at an early juncture of your life.^^

With a positive attitude and positive thinking one can live a longer and healthier life. Think positive and you can change your life in an affirmative way.

The Power of Positive Thinking

Positive thinking is a mental attitude comprising thoughts, words and images that are a way to growth, expansion and success. It’s an attitude that’s conductive to good quality and favourable results. A positive mind anticipates happiness, joy, health and success from virtually any situation it encounters.

It’s common to hear people say, “Think Positive!” to someone who’s down and out and appears worried. Most people don’t take these words seriously, bcoz they don’t know what they really mean and, therefore, don’t consider them useful or effectual. How many people do you know, who stop to think what the power of positive thinking really means?

We have to meet every new day and situation with the determination to do our best, while being open to new ideas, situations and people. If we suffer a bad day, we should not become disheartened, as it’s natural to have down days too. And even when that happens we should accept we are only human and renew our efforts to apply the art of positive thinking. We ought to see this as a challenge and stepping-stone to growth by replacing negative thoughts with positive thinking.

Keep Trying

The power of positive thinking is something that’s natural for some people, while for others it has to be learned. However, we can shape our inner voice with positive thinking and positive actions. Positive thinking is a lifetime commitment of making your dreams come true by being honest, polite, kind and optimistic with yourself and others.

We learn positive thinking by controlling our thoughts and actively pushing the negative ones out of our minds. Once a negative thought enters your mind, you have to be aware of it and make an effort to replace it with a constructive one. Every time a negative thought tried to enter your mind, you should replace it with a positive one. Determination will ultimately teach your mind to think positively and ignore negative ones. You have to keep trying until you succeed.

Powerful Thoughts

Negative thoughts are not bad; they’re simply telling us about something that needs our attention. Our job is to discover what needs to be done and take care of it. Success lies just beyond your thoughts. Know that this understanding is what inspires you to accomplish what you really desire in life. And if you are satisfied with yourself and your thoughts, there is nothing you cannot do or be—bcoz your thoughts are powerful!

Live Longer, Live Healthier

Is your glass half empty of half full? How you answer this age-old question reflects your outlook on life and whether you’re optimistic or pessimistic. In fact, studies show that these personality traits optimism and pessimism can affect how well you live and even how long you live. Positive thoughts have the power to change your life. Time and again we hear: think positive and positive things will happen. This is in fact an incomplete thought, the reality is that when you think a positive thought you must also have enthusiasm which supports that though, otherwise you tend to self damage. You really have to feel what you are thinking. Positive thought is necessary to generate positive results.

Effective Technique

It is an established fact that people with positive attitudes generally enjoy a healthier life. Optimists are more likely to overcome pain and hardship in their efforts to improve their medical treatment outcomes. Your body responds to your thoughts, emotions, and actions. Changing your expectations from negative to positive enhances your physical health. Positive emotions boost your body’s immune system. Luckily, almost anything that makes you feels good about yourself helps you stay healthy. Positive thinking is an effective technique to achieve mastery over self healing. Positive emotions and feelings and a positive mental attitude can improve the quality of people’s lives and heal their bodies of illnesses and stresses. On the other hand, negative emotions and feelings bring poisoning toxins to the living being and thus shorten the span of life.

Besides healing illnesses, positive attitudes help one to withstand troubles and problems, make correct decisions and overcome obstacles.

Replacement of Thoughts

A pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees an opportunity in every difficulty. Positive thinking is not just philosophy; it is a practice something you have to do everyday, over and over again. You have to make it a practice to replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts.

Positive and negative thinking are both communicable. All of us affect, in one way or another, the people we meet. People sense our aura and are affected by our thoughts. Is it any wonder that we want to be around positive persons and avoid negative people? People are more inclined to help us if we are positive? They dislike and avoid anyone spreading negativity.

As we actively learn positive thinking, we must be willing to modify or develop ourselves each day, giving actions and thoughts our very best possible effort in controlling the outcome to positive thinking. With such improvements comes an uplifting in self-esteem that encourages and enables us to think and perform better, which in turn reduces stress as positive thoughts attract that are even more positive.

Leads to Success

When we wrap ourselves with positive attitudes, it leads to success. You become confident and expect success so you constantly take action on what you desire and believe you will get it. When you know how to use this effectively, then all manner of things become possible. You are actively able to attract circumstances that you desire into your life. This could be wealth, professional life, relationships or whatever else you may choose.

Changing your perspective is the key to finding success in apparent failure. We can indeed live happier, healthier, and more successful lives if we can learn to discover opportunities in problems. Due to optimistic positive thinking, problems become merely challenging opportunities that you can turn to your advantage. They provide opportunities for personal growth and can encourage your creativity for finding better ways to live.

A positive attitude is a vital asset at any time. It is a process and not the goal. Fill your mind with light, hope and feelings of strength, and soon your life will reflect these qualities.

Be positive.

Relationships:

TIME TO TALK WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Many of us have faced a loved one who gives us the silent treatment when things in the relationship get rocky. If it’s often difficult to get your husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend to open up and say what’s on his or her mind.

Some of us are bad at putting their feelings and emotions into words, and others just don’t want to. This is upsetting for the friend or partner who might have no clue what’s wrong. Misunderstanding crop up and false assumptions lead to a relationship slowly dying out. Some basic step can help to get your significant other to open to you.

Communication is important

A lack of communication is often responsible for the fall of an otherwise good marriage or relationship. Busy schedules, or option of confiding in office friends or family members, might make your partner unwilling to talk. Patience and affection are the key. Don’t thrust conservations upon them, but make a genuine, sympathetic effort to understand their point of view.

Exchange notes

Use notes if you can’t connect with them verbally. Everyday chores like packing a tiffin or getting tea rae perfect opportunities to do that. Writing gives the other person time to think over the message, and avoid a hasty response. Also, you can rewrite the message if you don’t like what you don’t like what you have written the first time. You might find a more understanding peson when you finally face your partner.

Find a good time to talk

Your partner might not always be in the mood to talk. They may have had a bad day at work, be really tired or preoccupied with family issues. Talk to them at a time when you know that they will be attentive to you. Otherwise, you may not get the response that you desire. Don’t get into a blame game that goes back to when you first met.

Show interest

Don’t go on talking only about yourself. Your partner has heard your side of the story b4 and needs help coming out with theirs. Being a martyr could result in either defensiveness or more silence from your partner. Instead, you could try asking about their day. If you show interest in them, they too will begin to open up.

Be a little stern

If they still don’t show interest, then you may need to act a little firm. Turn off the TV or the loud music that they have deliberately switched on. Try to figure out when they’re using family issues or work as an excuse not to talk. Make it clear that you want to be heard and that you deserve some of their time. Don’t get into a shouting match either, though. The idea is to be firm, not overbearing, or you’ll get right back to where you started from.

Show love and understanding

Finally, you should be patient with your partner. Affection and patience can give your partner what they most need to open up – emotional security. They know that you love and respect them, and will truly understand their point of view. The fear of being rebuffed, or perceived as silly, is what makes people afraid to discuss their closest relationships. Convince them that will not happen. Only then they allow themselves to open up to you.

THE LITTLE INVESTOR

Savings are no longer about piggy banks. This takes your child to the bank & initiates him into the art of saving…

Money! How you wish you didn’t have to slog day after day for that salary slip at the end of the month. How you wish money grew on trees after all. Imagine life without the paranoia of where the funds for your child’s education or marriage will come from. Without a care in the world about saving for a rainy day, or that emergency, god forbids. And, every time you land yourself in a financial mess, how you wish your parents had taught you the basics of saving… Well, are you teaching your kids?

FROM PIGGY BANKS TO ATMS

Don’t rule out the good old piggy bank yet. It has own fascination. Remember the joy of slipping little coins into the slit back and breaking it with bravado when you wanted to buy that surprise gift for your parents’ wedding anniversary.

There are numerous piggy possibilities. If your child is too young, buy him an attractive piggy bank; they come in various shapes and sizes. Some resemble cartoon characters, some look like iron chests, complete key or code. Keep it on your child’s table and every time grandpa gives him a tenner to buy a chocolate, encourage him ti put it in the bank instead. Tell him a chocolate wouyld melt in his mouth and be done with, but if he saves enough money, he can buy that Pokemon satchel he so craves. If it is a terracotta bank, you can only break it, but there are those that come with locks and keys. Spend a Sunday afternoon with your kid counting out the loot. Watch out for the super glossy shine his eyes take on when he realizes he’s saved enough for the latest Harry Potter book. It’s worth it.

BEFORE YOU BEGIN

Once upon a time, opening a bank account for a minor was a huge hassle. These days, however, most banks offer interesting schemes for children. But before you begin, remember you can open an account only if you are a parent or legal guardian of the child. You can’t open one for your niece, nephew or friend’s kid. Also, the account will be in child’s name but you will officially represent him/her for all purposes.

DOS, DON’TS

The first step is to choose a bank smartly. Don’t pick a bank located far away from where you live, for the inconvenience of driving that far on weekend will definitely put you off sooner or later. There has to be a trusted bank in your neighborhood, pick that one.

Then decide how much you want to set aside for your child each month, perhaps, based on how much you would need to invest in his education. Don’t stretch yourself; the monthly allocation should fit happily in your budget. Most banks offer interesting schemes that range from a minimum monthly deposit to links to your account, even investment in equity and mutual funds, insurance protection and ATM/debit cards.

Remember you will need a minimum amount to open the account; it could range from MNT 15,500 – MNT 155,000. If you are opting for an ATM/debit card for your child, you will probably have to maintain a minimum balance as well. Check all this before signing on the dotted line.

Check These Facts:

• Can you link your child’s account with yours?
• Can the bank debit the monthly allocation directly from your account? Are there any minimum balances or charges involved for direct debit?
• Does the bank offer an ATM/debit card to minors? Is there a monthly withdrawal limit? Choose one with a low limit.
• If your child signing up for an ATM/debit card, will your bank provide SMS alert? This is important bcoz every time he transacts , you get a SMS alert.
• Will the bank send you monthly/quarterly/annual statements?
• Does the bank offer education/accident/insurance cover?
• Is there an option of investing in mutual funds or debt/equity funds?

WHY SAVE?

Think of the day when your child has turned 18 and gained admission into a prestigious institute and you find out that you have to shell out MNT 12,400,000 for his admission. If you start saving early, that amount will not daunt you. Saving not only prepares you for tomorrows, but also makes tomorrows a cakewalk. However, the biggest benefit of getting your child to save is to teach him the value of money and the art of saving. Explain the benefits to him. Sit with him and ask him how much of his pocket money he wants to set aside; tell him how money grows through earned interest. Depending on his spending habits, decide whether you want to give him an ATM/debit card; if you do, teach him how to use it sparingly. If he is old enough, explain to him the benefits of mutual funds. Who know you may have an entrepreneur in making?

If you begin early, your child will soon learn to be independent and appreciate the value of money. And like you, he will never land himself in a financial mess bcoz he would know how to handle money well. After all, money doesn’t really grow on trees!

GAMBLERS HAVE MORE HEALTH PROBLEMS

People who gamble are more likely to suffer from a variety of health problems, including heart and liver disease, a new study finds. The researchers looked at three kinds of gamblers, whom they described as pathological, problem or at-risk, and found that all of them tended to report more medical concerns than the general population.

The pathological gamblers had the highest number of reported problems. But even occasional gamblers raised some red flags. “Taken together,” the researchers write in the study, “these findings indicate that even a moderate amount of gambling (five or more times a year) is associated with some decreased health functioning.” Benjamin J Morasco, led the study when he was at the University Connecticut.

Gamblers were considered pathological if they were preoccupied with gambling and kept doing it even though it was causing difficulties at home or work. Problem gamblers were those whose troubles were not as severe. People who gambled five or more times a year were described as “at-risk”. There are several explanations for why gamblers might suffer more health problems, the researchers said. People who gamble a lot are more likely to smoke and drink heavily too.

By some estimates, the researchers said, the at-risk group makes up about a fourth of the population, so the findings suggest that there may be large public health implications hidden there.

The Tip:

How to write a love poem

• Write a page of standard prose about how you felt the first time you saw your loved one, how you felt the first time you knew were in love.

• Replace any weak verbs with stronger verbs and any pronouns with proper nouns.

• Reread your passage and pick a central metaphor is the challenging part, but feel free to go experiment.

• Read your page out loud, changing anything that sounds ‘off’ to you. Make notations where you feel there’s even slightest pause in the flow of writing.

• Now phrase these in the form of a poem, putting a line break where you made the notations.

• Type the poem neatly or write it in your best handwriting.

THE PERFECT GIFTS FOR HER

Every woman likes flowers; most women are into zodiac signs too. How are the two related? Siple – know your woman’s zodiac sign and give her birth month. While at it, some gift ideas according to her fav colour as well hea;

An Aries girl?
This Fire sign usually likes red. Gift her a red silk scarf along with a bunch of red roses and tulips.

A Taurus lady?
This precious Earth sign will like most things green or else, fullest of cost and quality. Forget flowers, you could get away with giving her a plant instead! Else, go for a bouquet of iris, lavender and lilac!

A Cancer Chiquita?
This Water sign likes the colour silver. Give her roses or delphinia and make sure you give her something in silver.

A Gemini gal?
This Air sign has a thing for yellow. Long stalked daffodils are the best flowers for her and don’t forget that yellow coffee mug!

A Virgo female?
This Earth one loves pure white – give her a white chrysanthemums and a white vase.

A Libra lass?
This Air sign loves colours that blend well. While gardenias and freesia work for flowers, a beautiful tan, leather bag is a good gift.

A Scorpio lady?
This Water sign has a preference for all dark colours. Gift her violet orchids and bring home red wine – she’ll flip.

A Sagittarius girl?
This Fire sign loves purple. How about purple fishnet stockings for her?

A Capricorn chick?
This Earth lady usually prefers grey and black. Go for a poinsettia brooch and couple it with a silver grey dress.

An Aquarius girl?
This Air sign loves electric blue. Gifting her electric blue tie-up stillettoe is perfect. A single bird of paradise would be the final touch.

A Pisces woman?
This Water sign digs turquoise – pretty turquoise thong slippers, coupled with a bunch of zinnia to go with them would be the perfect gift.

FAB GIFTS THAT HE WILL LOVE

Buying gifts for your man can be a plan. After all, how many times can you give him a perfume, a card or that neck-tie? Valentine’s Day might be out for this year, but reasons to gift are still many. To go with every reasons and season, here are gift ideas, custom-made suit your man’s zodiac (and to solve your problem as well):

He is Aries…

This Fire sign is independent, impulsive, direct and dislikes evasiveness. Red works best for an Aries Man – get direct with him and give him a pair of red, ahem, undies. He’d know what you’re thinking!

He is Taurus…

This Earth sign is persistent, stubborn, determined, loves plants and is practical. A Taurean man loves green: gift him a plant!

He is Gemini…

This Air sign is curious, playful and immature. Yellow is his colour and bright yellow painting for his bathroom is cool.

He is Cancer…

This Water sign is sympathetic, emotional and loves being at home. Silver works best for him. Buy him a silver wristwatch so that he’s never late on his dates!

He is Leo…

This Fire sign is proud, self-conscious and very loyal. The showy Leo man is also regal, so give him anything in gold – a Golden Retriever pup, maybe?

He is Virgo…

This Earth sign is meticulous, precise and very critical. White is his colour. Buy him absolutely crisp, sparkling white wok shirts. He’d appreciate your practicality.

He is Libra…

Cooperative, friendly and liberal, pale yellow or tan are his colours. Buy him sunglasses in basic colours.

He is Scorpio…

This Water sign is instinctive, sexual, magnetic and bonds intensively with loved ones. Deep red or violet are his colours. A scarlet rug for his room or violet bed sheets in satin? Perfect!

He is Sagittarius…

This Fire sign does things in a big way – outgoing, adventurous and he enjoys travel. Purple is the colour for a Sagittarius. Buy him a purple shirt for a cool-dude look.

He is Capricorn…

This Earth sign is serious and ambitious. Black is his faviourite thing. Beyond that shirt, get him a black mug, a sleek balck pen – in fact, anything in black should do the trick!

He is Aquarius…

Interested in abstract, this Air sign responds best to electric blue. An aquarium is the best buy or perhaps even flowy drapes!

He is Pisces…

This Water sign is dreamy and loves music. Turquoise works bets for him. Buy him a turquoise penstand for his work table.

10 signs She’s cheating on you!!

There is the silence before the storm and the signs you are dumped. Read the 10 signs that say your girl is cheating on you and wish her goodbye, quick! You know you’re in trouble when she…

• Refuses a ride back with because she doesn’t know how late she’d be. Of course, ‘some colleague’ will drop her back.

• Discusses her taxation troubles with that guy at work/friend’s brother/ someone else instead of you; and you happen to be a chartered accountant.

• Talks about a man and strangely, he is ALWAYS either gay or ha a girlfriend. If he has a fiancée, you have two days to move out.

• Decks up for this “really boring but imperative” office do. Of course the backless is because she has to be a professional even she doesn’t like it.

• Debuts on stage or wins an award and you read about it in the papers. It’s worse if she forgot to invite you or forgot you in her ‘thanks to these people’ list.

• Tells you to take notes from the Kamasutra for Beginners that she gifts you on you birthday.

• Refuses to do anything for you because she says she’s developing a Superwoman complex.

• Prefers men hairless and makes it a point to point it out to you by saying, “So what if you’re
very hairy? I have a thing for furry creatures.”

• Instead of getting turned on while looking at some, err, hot stuff with you, starts laughing instead!

• Looks relieved when you say points 1-9 are reasons the two of you are not working out and says with a smile, “Finally! It took you nine points to realize that?!”

10 signs He is cheating on you!

Women are known to be good at reading signs. Yet, how is it that they are totally obvious to cheating mates? Don’t be fooled anymore. Read the 10 signs that say he is cheating on you:

• He comes back home at 3 a.m. every night (morning?) and says it’s because his computer crashed. Every time.

• He doesn’t tell you where his money is going; but there’s never anything left. Worse is still is when you don’t even know his salary break up!

• He talks most about that particular babe at work; and she is ALWAYS a b***h. To mislead you!
• He wants to avoid going for a party till the time you are going. Once you decline, the suddenly remembers an old obligation and has to go. Without you.

• He refuses to take you for official functions due to ‘new management rules’. The new female colleague in office, however, has to accompany him everywhere. Even unofficial movie shows.

• His mother rearranges your drawing room, bedroom and underwear basket as well – you hate it while he… asks you to take notes!

• He thinks that whatever you do for him because he ‘allows’ it or because everything is ‘his will’.

• He eyes women passing-by, looks at you and says, “So what if you have a jelly belly? I like my li’l piglet!” And says it in public.

• He insists you get inspired by, err, visual stimulants while doing ‘it’, then stops midway to discuss how his favourite Rebecca Lord should have been A-grade Hollywood actress.

• He suggests you to go a shrink when you say points 1-9 are the reasons the two of you aren’t working out. If he calls your reasons ‘trivial’, bid him goodbye now.

5 signs She’s not into you!!

• Says she’s not ready for a relationship: Ah, the classic escape route! Women use this one when they feel cornered by someone they aren’t interested in. It’s awfully true. It’s clean and leaves no room for counter argument.
• You’re always the one calling her: Okay, so women have been told by umpteen dating books to let the man to the pursuing. But she should call you at least once for every three times you call her!
• Avoids eye contact and physical proximity: Sneaky little trick, but usually works! She may be consciously trying to avoid leading you on and having to turn down your advances later.
• It’s always vague about making plans: “We should definitely catch up” is not a plan. If she’s interested, she’d make firm plans and like you to stick them too.
• Talks too much about former boyfriend: even if she says, “What a dos he was!” rest assured she’s still hung up on him and is using you just a rebound.

READ THE SIGNS

Is your partner really giving you the see-saw treatment? Think again. Could you be overacting? Access the situation fully before taking action.

5 signs He’s not into you!!

• Never plans on advance: if he really wanted to see you, you think he’d call you at the last minute to make plans for Saturday? Take a hint – he needs a date, not necessarily you!

• Talks too much about former girl-friend: Could it be that he’s not over her yet? And if she isn’t in a relationship, chances are he’ll win her back, leaving you… well, stranded!

• Won’t talk about the future: Okay, not the kids’ names but does he see farther than next Monday?

• Is secretive about phone calls & e-mail: People who hide nothing have nothing to hide. People who hide anything have SOMETHING TO HIDE!

• Has no interest in your friends and family: Could it be that he doesn’t expect to be around for too long??

Diary; Part II

After dinner I came to my room with great zeal to know what the box could contain with itself.

I opened it & found there are an old diary with some letters and an old, black & white photo of a young man, someone different from my father’s image. You know, it became something like a puzzle…

The diary was of my mother’s own and the letters were by that young man addressing to my mother. The letters contained serene, yet innocent first platonic love poems that making me more curious to know what is the real romantic relationship, as I used to read them at bedtime after dinner. It was long ago before her marriage with my father, the pen-relationship of theirs over the letters till the WWI as seeing from the letters it was obvious to guess so.

While reading the letters and diary I found a naïve couple who both are caring each other with their vivacious moments addressing to each other & all those made me more willing to be a part of their time of them and share their joys over the letters. I used to imagine myself as a lady who supposed to be my mother, as for the young man-I used to imagine him to be as one of my seniors at my college, whom most of girls fell in love & ran after him. He was called as Anton.

Yes, I used to imagine so in my enthusiastic & wild fantastic mind as placing that Anton & me as the lovers in the letters. I used to have looks on him from the distance even, I could found a number of similarities to share with Anton and the young man in the diary with letters. Yet, in earth I was well aware that Anton was at the highest and he never knew where this girl-I was existing or heard about even my name…

At every time when I saw Anton all around the college, poor my heart used to beat as if urging me to step towards to him. And he was always busy with rehearsing with shooting as he was in group filming as a producer and then those girls. They were not in shape to allow him to be alone. More, I was sure that he never knew about my existence in this earth and did not want to know this also.

Still I kept on reading the diary with letters with my romantic fantasy of my own…

To Be Continued...

Diary;

I've grown up with my grandparents, adopted as I was a babygirl of 18 months years old, after my parents had got an accident in mountain road.

On my B-day of 18, my grandpa took me together with my lovely puppy Shiny to some miles away with his old Porsche to show the bungalow near the lake where my late mother was living before her marriage with my father.

When we reach the place,a remarkable harmony welcomed us all around. There one could have a very peaceful moments while meditating on something deep in that pecularity. The lake was serene that made its neighborhood more calm & its view with the bungalow and nearby birch trees as the light breeze coming-all these were suggestive to me that perhaps such quietness could exist in paradise only.

That was the bungalow which seems containing those unknown stories over the whole ages with itself. While I was having a very charming thought in my mind, grandpa told me something & pointed to the sky where a couple of swallows flying over the lake in the deep wide sky as like dancing in a ballet.

As my grandpa saying, a number of people and tourists wanted to buy mama's house as they were getting attracted to this extraordinary and fascinating area, but me grandparents didn't allow this & have kept it as a very precious memories of my mama. Then he told me to enter the house and he, himself left outdoor as playing with Shiny and went towards the lake.

As well as its exterior view, an exotic yet very warm atmosphere welcomed me at the very enter inside te room. The wooden furniture, table, bookcase, clock, and kitchenware etc. everything was here as if someone still living in tis house. It was arranged so as my grandparents wished to leave all things of my mother's as the things were like before her marriage. I was trying to get familiar with every part in room & to guess how mama had been living here. I came to the bookcase and opened it, there were a lot of books of almost each subjects, each field.

Having a glance at them with my curious eyes, suddenly i found there to be an elegant yet a bit puzzling box beside the books. The box was covered with dust , as i suppose, my grandparents reached everything in the house but left untouching this unique box, as if they respected the precious treasure of my mama.

With a great joy as if i found the weights of the gold in a cave, i took that & as going outside called my grandpa & showed it in my both raised hands over the head. Grandpa was calmly smiling at me and nodded his head. I suppose, he must knew it then wanted me to find it by myself as being born as her, mama's child.

I carried it with myself and we got on the way to back home where my grandma was to be preparing B-day dinner.

To Be Continued...